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 Side by Side: Couple Aging Together in Spirit

Tom and Anne Butler

Tom and Anne Butler

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone –  we find it with another.Tom and Anne discovered their gift of one another and for one another on the occasion of Tom’s beloved younger brother, Richard’s diagnosis of advanced bladder...

Jim Whitney and Ruth Shagoury

Jim Whitney and Ruth Shagoury

“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”  Jim Whitney and Ruth Shagoury met at the University of New Hampshire and as they worked together, realized the perfect fit of their friendship, senses of humor, love of music, and love for each other.  Jim is an...

Rabbi Laurie Rutenberg and Rabbi Gary Schoenberg

Rabbi Laurie Rutenberg and Rabbi Gary Schoenberg

“For the unlearned, old age is winter; for the learned it is the season of the harvest.”Laurie Rutenberg and Gary Schoenberg met in Jerusalem during their first year in rabbinical school. They didn’t hit it off.  It took five years for them to discover a love and...

Jim Rogers and Sally Hare

Jim Rogers and Sally Hare

“We have so many old people and so few elders.”Wendy and Debby began their journey together in 2011 after several years of working together and learning the character and values of the other. They fell in love with a deep knowing that God made them perfectly.”

Debby Ofstedahl and Wendy Mc Call

Debby Ofstedahl and Wendy Mc Call

“You can never love another person unless you are equally involved in the beautiful, but difficult spiritual work of learning to love yourself”.Wendy and Debby began their journey together in 2011 after several years of working together and learning the character and...

Rick and Marcy Jackson

Rick and Marcy Jackson

… the world cannot be discovered by a journey of miles, no matter how long, but only by a spiritual journey, a journey of one inch, very arduous and humbling and joyful, by which we arrive at the ground at our feet, and learn to be at home.Marcy and Rick Jackson met...

Jim and Marianne Houston

Jim and Marianne Houston

What a wonderful thing was the Loving Decision by the Supreme Court in 1967!  When we married in 1968 we rejoiced with much of the nation: interracial marriage was finally legal in the U.S.  When we celebrated our 50th anniversary in 2018 we called our party...

Michael and Eileen Heaton

Michael and Eileen Heaton

If love is the answer then community is the context and tenderness is the methodology.Eileen and Michael met at a New York City theater audition in 1978 and were married on stage in Myrtle Beach, SC in August 1979.  Our lives have been entwined in business, domestic...

Steve and Fay Orton Snyder

Steve and Fay Orton Snyder

You may not remember the time you let me go first. Or the time you dropped back to tell me it wasn’t that far to go. Or the time you waited at the crossroads for me to catch up. You may not remember any of those, but I do and this is what I have to say to you: Today,...

David Hagstrom & Karen Noordhoff

David Hagstrom & Karen Noordhoff

…[A] good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. …[And] once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a...

Patsy An Grace and Harvey Bottelsen

Patsy An Grace and Harvey Bottelsen

The minute I heard my first love storyI started looking for youNot knowing how blind that was.Lovers don’t finally meet somewhereThey are in each other all along.Patsy An Grace & Harvey Bottelsen met in the beautiful and magical land of Bali in 1994.  That moment...

Paul and Roz Dumesnil

Paul and Roz Dumesnil

and how we are all preparing for that abrupt waking, and that calling and that moment we have to say yes, except it will not come so grandly, so Biblically, but more subtly and intimately in the face of the one you know you have to love.Paul and Roz met at Santa Clara...

Caryl & Jeff Creswell

Caryl & Jeff Creswell

“To live in this world you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go.”Caryl came to see Jeff about participating in a Courage and...

Barbara and Bobby Bellamy

Barbara and Bobby Bellamy

“Fifty years ago we didn’t even try to imagine the year 2020, or us as aged people. But God did... He imagined and orchestrated a very good life for us two. He did a marvelous and wondrous job! All praise and honor are His!”We were terribly mismatched. With an...

“The heart for kindness and service is fundamental in relationships. So essential are the many small acts of kindness they become the very glue of an affectionate marriage.”