Chapter Four: Blessed is the Couple Who Confronts Their Own Shadows

Paul and Roz Dumesnil

and how we are all preparing for that abrupt waking, and that calling and that moment we have to say yes, except it will not come so grandly, so Biblically, but more subtly and intimately in the face of the one you know you have to love.

David Whyte

The True Love

Paul and Roz met at Santa Clara University in 1965, the first week of their freshman year. From the start, they were drawn to one another by their mutual desire for a deeper relationship with God. Today, after 50 years of marriage, that passion prevails, coloring the rich connections they enjoy with family and friends as well as their shared enthusiasm for travel, sports, and the arts. Prior to transitioning into pastoral ministry, Paul enjoyed a thirty-year career in banking, specializing in construction and real estate lending as well as private wealth management. Roz’s work was centered on public relations and fundraising for non-profit organizations, followed by a segue into a ministry that culminated in teaching. Today they are both spiritual directors, practicing out of their home. In order to be closer to their nine grandchildren, they relocated to Palo Alto in 2016.